Dating Tips from the '30's!

Dear: 'JustAGuy', whoever you may be, although I appreciate your opinion but you are right, you are no expert in this field. You bring about some good points and I suppose neither one of us could speak on behalf of the opposite sex. In any sense, thank you for shedding some light on my narrow minded opinions but I will say here are some facts to back up my views.

An insightful colleague of mine read my blog and thought this next topic would be more than appropriate to follow my last post. He stumbled upon an article that went over dating tips that were given to women in the 1930's. This article was published by Mail Online in attempts to share the differences between dating today and dating in the 30's. The results would astound you, especially if you were a feminist! Here are some of my favorites:

1. "Don't use the car mirror to fix your make-up. Man needs it in driving, and it annoys him very much to have to turn around to see what's behind him." God forbid us woman do anything that causes the guy any sort of hassle or extra work!

2. "If you need a brassiere, wear one. Don't tug at your girdle, and be careful your stockings are not wrinkled." So I guess this goes as back to the 30's that women have been trained to be prim and proper in front of guys. Don't give them the slightest insight that you can barely breath because your girdle is too tight in which you only wear for him so you won't show any imperfections! 

3. "Dont' be familiar with your escort by caressing him in public. Any open show of affection is in bad taste, usually embarrasses or humiliates him." Another rule of thumb, don't show any affection because that is wrong and don't you dare think of doing anything to embarrass your male friend for that might turn him off completely! In that case, you might not get called back for a second date!  

4. "Don't drink too much as a man expects you to keep your dignity all evening. Drinking may make some girls seem clever but most get silly." Yes, guys never say or do anything 'silly' when they drink either! Boy have the times changed, I think it would be safe to say that most men would now prefer their date to drink.

(Photos courtesy of Mail Online) 

Find me a magazine article similar to this for guys? I can almost ensure that there is not one out there. So although guys may do most things in life in order to have a better sex appeal, women tend to alter their behavior and personality to better suite their male companion and to be a better mate, not just physically. These are now the facts, as far back as the '30's woman have been instilled in their minds to be more suitable for a man where as guys may feel that society has taught them that driving a Lamborghini may get them more play but has never taught them to change who they are just to impress a woman. So, for the guy out there driving an '88 Honda Civic coming off the red eye shift at McDonalds, you are going to find a great girl, someone who is more interested in the person you are rather than what brand name clothes your wearing. Hopefully this is the same girl who won't mind if her stockings are wrinkled and may have a few drinks over dinner! :) 

It's almost a New Year...

Is it true that in every relationship one person has to be "the catch?" Doesn't it seem that in almost every relationship there is someone who has to settle? Someone who has to lower their expectations and accept someone who is pretty close to what they are looking for? It's sort of a depressing thought and it really made me think,  have I been the catch or the settlement? And is this really true in every relationship?
I am no myth buster but in researching my case studies this has always been the case. Let's reminisce on my dating experiences:

Loser #1: We dated for only 2months when I was just 14 years old but this was my first real boyfriend who took me to the movies and came to dinner at my house. He was a lot older than me but I have always liked to date older guys so he fit this requirement. I wouldn't quite call it settling but I definitely lowered my expectations, at the time he wasn't the nicest man on the planet and definitely not the most motivated. So we broke up and I continued my search for a kind ambitious man!!

High School Sweetheart is #2: I spent three and a half years with this one only to find out that the entire time he thought he was beyond too good for me! I believe he thought he was settling, I mean I know I have my flaws but he was so adamant on molding me into the perfect girlfriend. We inevitably broke up when he went to study abroad in Europe and when he came back I had FINALLY come to my senses and realized I was the one who could do better!

College Romance- #3: This is the most recent break up and since it is so new I am not going to mention who did the settling but there was definitely a whole lot of settling go on in this relationship! Isn't it weird how after a break up it seems like we think so much clearer and realize how things should be?!? That's a topic for another day!

So it seems as though, at least in my track record, someone is always settling. Sad thought but is it possible that there could be a case where two people don't have to settle? Is that what they call your soul mate? I'm no love expert and I certainly do not believe in soul mates but to find someone your compatible with and that you find yourself sincerely happy with, that would be good enough for me!

Anyways,  make your new years resolution to not be the one to settle and find someone great on MoveThatBlock!!! ;) I hope everyone has a great New Year and finds someone to share the night with!!!

Online Dating?!?

I have not been single for a while now but just recently the guy that I had been seeing and myself decided to split. Breaking up is by far one of the hardest things I have ever had to do in my life. I would rather endure a thousand broken bones before breaking the heart of someone you care about. For me, the hardest part is not only hurting the person you were with but also their family! If you could't already tell, I am very family oriented so it is important for me to get to know the guy's family, whom I am dating. But this makes things much more complicated and takes breaking up to a whole new level. Not only do you have to say goodbye to your boyfriend, but his mother, father and brother as well. Now to make things even more complicated, bring a dog into the mix! I cannot even imagine what divorce would be like especially if children were involved! That is certainly something I never want to do in my lifetime!

But on a much brighter note, dating!!! This is something that I have not done in a long time! Truth being that I miss the excitement! Getting to know someone, figuring out who they are, what they like and the rush you get from something new and exciting! Now, since it has been a while from my dating days, the dating game has completely changed. What's the deal with this online dating business?? Do people really find dates online?? I am definitely a skeptic of online dating and I don't really know if I have formed an opinion about it yet but I am pretty open minded so I thought I would give it a try! I would love any advice or comments anybody has to offer :) Here's my profile!